Not too many people want to discuss these hidden conditions or expectations, but we all hope that our partner possesses some of these qualities to meet what we visualize.
Love has to have condition!!!And this was told to me by a marriage counselor when I agreed to see this "quack" as the last resource to save my 22 years relationship, and my family. I asked him what condition should I put on the X when after work he went to his parents house to sit every day, while his children were waiting for him at home? The so-called Counselor dropped his jaw and asked the X: "You do that every day? How old are you?"
He then suggested me to write down the consequences for when the X violated my expectations. I didn't think that there should be a written condition on how a man, who was old enough to be a father of three, should behave! This was when I realized that my relationship was beyond repair, and I didn't want to be in a relationship with conditions and consequences!
This wacky marriage counselor made the word "love" sounded ugly and terrible. It was not what I thought of a loving relationship or believed it should be. I have no doubt that there are cases of extraordinary love, true to its meaning of unconditional love, and exceptionally special. They maybe rare, but do exist somewhere!
Over the years though, I tend to agree with him. We all have expectations, and conditions that put on relationship of all kinds, but we just don't go and write them down or talk it out loud. Thus, there is no such thing as unconditional love...
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(Listed in Mixed Memories Series)