It is not easy for me to deal with family members. I tend to just shut up, harbor the pain, and never even mention it. I'm not perfect, and I'm sure that I have said or done things that hurtful to others too. To make a long story short, and skip beating around the bushes, I went through bankruptcy last year. While going through this horrendous nightmare, I handled everything on my own. Nobody heard a peep out of me, especially my family members.
By the time I had a court day to finalize my case, the appointment was at 8:00 o'clock in the morning, which was also the time that I had to take my son to school. To make it on time to my appointment, I had to leave my house at around 7:00, and here was the dilemma: no one would be at the house with my son even if I took him off school. He was only 10 years old, and there was no bus route for us either.
I thought about all the possibilities, but nothing worked out! All my friends had jobs, and I could only trust a few of them. A week before my court day, I still couldn't solve this dilemma. I had called my lawyer to express this problem, he told me the court set the date, and it wouldn't be good for me to change it.
At a dinner gathering in my house one day, I finally told my sister that I've filed for bankruptcy, and then asked my niece if she could come, stay an hour with my son, and drop him off at the school so I could go to court. I knew seven o'clock was early for her, but it would only happen once. I was desperate enough to ask, which I thought was a small favor, but it was somewhat Mount Everest to my sister.
She came out and bluntly told me: "It 's too early for her to drive all that way!" For your information, my niece lived about 15-20 minutes from me, and she had driven farther than this to spend time with her boyfriend. I was stunt! My inside was on fire, and I couldn't find words to say anything else after that. Really, what do you say when you couldn't count on your own family members to lend a finger?
(Ghosh..It 've gotten too long, so 'til next time...)
(Listed in Mish-Mash Series)